Designer wardrobe on a frugal budget

First Frugal Fashionista post

With frugal living becoming the new buzz word of the year, people are becoming more aware of the many options for
living on less...and loving it!
While some people may be open to saving dollars by eating at home, or possibly cutting a few coupons here and there, wearing someone else's cast away clothes seems like it's crossing the line.
Well, we are going to change your mind about this. Just because you may buy clothes second hand doesn't mean you have to look like it's second hand.

This new weekly series called the Frugal Fashionista will:

1. unpack your reservations about
choosing second hand clothes
(you've told yourself you just can't get past the smell),
2. give you tips on where to look
(all stores are not created equal),
3. teach you how to browse efficiently
(ugh, I just don't have the time to go through all the racks)
4. give you a place to start
(we'll begin with some basic "easy to find" core wardrobe pieces that all thrift stores or yard sales will have),
5. give you the opportunity to share some of your frugal fashionista finds.

Each week I'll show you a designer labeled outfit that was put together typically for $15 or under. That will includes the accessories and shoes.

My desire is that this will peak your curiosity, open up a financial savings possibility that you may never have before considered, and spruce up your own wardrobe at the same time.

Last fall I was interviewed on the news about my Good Will shopping. The reporter took me by surprise with one of her questions.
She asked, "Do you have to shop at Good Will?"
I thought that was a bit bold of her, but for me, that was an easy answer.

At times in our earlier marriage (with four children in 5 1/2 years), I may have needed to, but now that I can afford to buy retail, I would never go back. The quality and variety of clothes that I have become accustomed to would never fit into our debt free living budget if I were to purchase them retail.

Last year, I hit one yard sale in a very wealthy neighborhood. The wife was clearing out her closet and brought out over 75 designer pieces of clothing and 20 pairs of shoes. Her hubby told me after she left that she was just getting started on the first closet. WHAT? Many of these items still had the tags on and some of the shoes had never been worn (yes, I know the used shoe topic is a whole different ball game. I'll save it for a separate post. :)
After you hit one "jack pot" like that, the thought of paying $1000 for the pieces that I purchased from her would make me hyperventilate.

Maybe this season will be your "jack pot."

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I wanted to begin with all the core wardrobe pieces, but this is what I was wearing today and i had the camera in hand. Nothing fancy, but frugally fantastic.
One of the quickest ways that I feel like a "million bucks' is when I wear a fabulous pair of boots. Even though I am definitely a comfort over looks kind of a gal, I can suck it up for a few hours to top off the outfit. :)

And of course, the camera battery died with this shot, so I couldn't retake it.

Leather Aerosols that had no wear on them
( and no, they are not your grandma's brand anymore) -
$6 at Good Will (plus 10% off since I have the frequent shopper card, oh yes I do).
This is about as much as I will spend on footwear.

One thing I love is trying new accessories.
I used to quite conservative with my accessories - small hoop earring etc.
Now I experiment with a large variety of styles, and have fun.
If I don't like them, I can pass them on. I only spent $1.
Perfect example - long brown earrings - $1 (new at yard sale).
Chunky necklace - $2 (ys)

Sheer Anne Taylor blouse - $3.25 (GW)
brown shell under shirt - $.50 (ys)
Banana Republic jeans - $1 (ys)

Let's see how we did:
Earrings -$1
Necklace - $2
Shirt - $3.25
tank top - $.50
Boots - $5.40
Total cost of outfit:
$12.15
Now, that's a good thing!

Next post in the series is done:
Building a Core Wardrobe - Frugally

Proverbs 31 - She Speaks Conference

Proverbs 31 Ministries is dedicated to Bringing God's Peace, Perspective, and Purpose to Today's Busy Woman.
Don't you just want to post that mission on the mantle of your home? (Or I'd be fine if you just tape it to your computer). :)
When I first heard about Prov. 31 two years ago, I knew this was a ministry whose heartbeat was closely aligned with my own.
For those of you who follow my blog, purposeful intentionality is something that I am committed to, and Proverbs 31 has a group of women boldly declaring God's love and grace. It doesn't get more intentional than that.
Last year, I led worship for a church that had asked Luann Prater to be their speaker. Over the past 8 months I have been slowly peaking into the lives of these women through their blogs. It is a true joy to see how God is using women whose hearts are fully yielded to Him.

A few years ago Prov. 31 began The She Speaks Conference: an amazing speaker/writer/blogging conference.
They are graciously giving away one scholarship to a blogger,
and I would love to be considered.
But guess what? The post is due - today/now (it's 2:30am) - and I thought the deadline was Sunday. It all fits with my "no editing" policy here at Balancing Beauty and Bedlam.

Quite honestly, this is a win-win.
My regular readers get to find out about an amazing ministry. And as part of our "God Watch time," my husband and I have decided that I am definitely going to She Speaks. We are watching and waiting to see how the Lord will use this time in my life and I am excited.

For the last two decades, the Lord has called me to many ministries that were "visual - up front" kind of positions.
First as a youth pastor, and then with a mixture of various leadership roles primarily focusing on ministering through worship and drama.
As I started having multiple children, requests were made for me to speak to womens groups.
The thought thrilled me.
I had been surrounded by many amazing mentors, including a Proverbs 31 mother, and felt that I had a passion to share specifically with other young moms.

Yet this quote, given to me by my former worship pastor, sums up the struggle that raged within me as I deliberated on a speaking ministry.
"The greatest impediment to your spiritual intimacy is your giftedness. Because you are gifted, you are going to be able to make life work within the church without ever knowing God well."

I never wanted to make "church work."
At that season in my life, I knew that the door needed to stay shut.
I was so busy with things....good things....Godly things.
I was serving in ministry opportunities that produced subtle pats on the back, and accolades for things that came easily to me. It was painful to I realize I was making "church work," and it wasn't just about Him.
Spending time just falling in love with Jesus...singing to Him...only for Him, was the deepest desire of my heart.
I stepped back and worshipped for an audience of One for the next few years.
In the last few years I have felt the Lord releasing me to a new season of ministry life.
A season where He has whispered it is good to go and share my beauty and bedlam.
I am passionate about encouraging women to remove the masks that society has placed on them, and relish in the beauty of who they are in Christ.
Authenticity and transparency are my desire each time that I speak, and its refreshing to share what the Lord has revealed to me through my "attempt" at balancing it all.
It's only been in the last few months that I have begun to see myself as a blogger, and hopefully, the message I communicate in written word is identical to who I am in real life.
So why then do I want to go to She Speaks?
Since the doors has swung open, I will be taking the advanced Speaker's Track.
I desire strategic direction and mentoring from women who have gone before me on this journey.
I feel as if I am paddling upstream, and considering this unbalanced boat is typically filled with my five children rocking it rambunctiously, I need to get a better rudder system.
Or at least many more life preservers. :)
She Speaks will be that lifeguard/coach that will allow me to navigate my journey more effectively.
I know that I will leave with the necessary tools of intentionality to patch up my barely buoyant boat, and finish strong...
And of course, do I even need to mention the encouragement from being with a group of like minded women who love my Jesus with their whole heart?
AND the opportunity to sing praises to Him with 600 other ladies.
Ah - for me, that is a slice of heaven.
My hubby has been encouraging me to take a step forward with my speaking and it's been amazing to have him as my biggest cheerleader.
With his unemployment, this is a big leap of faith, but God is so faithful to provide.
It's when our God Watch gets exciting.
Oh, and I can't forget another important reason.
I will be feeding Emily and the Nester chocolate from the front row during their talk.
That's pretty important as well. :)
What are real friends for if they don't share their chocolate?

Thank you, P31 ladies, for all the time that you have already put into this conference.
I know it's going to be such a blessing to many, and I can't wait to meet you all in person.

It's now 3:45am and I believe I met the deadline (pretty please?).
So good night.
I can't believe I stayed up to do this, but I saw that Lysa put the deadline as "by Friday" and I got really nervous.
Can someone now come and mother my children for me?
I'm going to need a nap. :)

Tea Parties all day long...

From the tantalizing aroma of freshly baked banana bread,
to the soothing sips of a simmering beverage,
the kitchen is the heart and home of our fondest memories.
As a frugal mom, it's a temptation to create a
"don't touch, that's expensive"
environment.
Instead, create a haven that whispers,
"You are my special treasure, and all that I have is yours."

Almost daily, when my girls ask for something to drink,
they pick one of my special cups.
I take this mundane moment to remind them of the true treasure they are
simply because...

they are fearfully and wonderfully made.

And this ordinary moment
becomes extraordinary.
They don't know it now,
but they will...

What are you going to do today to change the mundane to the marvelous?
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And just so I don't lead you astray as to the pristine, prim and proper bonnet wearing (learning how to stick out her pinky finger when she's drinking) cherub that I am raising....

Now, that's more like it!

And I do believe that these pics were taken first thing in the morn
and that was orange juice in those tea cups. :)

This is all part of our Beautiful Life (brought by the Inspired Room).

Banana bread - baking in bulk

There are so many things that I love to do with one hour of my time.
Some choices benefit me.
Some choices benefit my family, and some benefit a whole bunch of people.
My choice of an hour benefited all three categories, and it even included a horse.

Quick breads and muffins are not only a
fantastically frugal option in feeding our family,
but they also create the "Welcome Home" atmosphere I am trying to instill by tantalizing most of our senses.
It warms my heart to have the kids open the door and exclaim,
"Oh mom, it smells so good in here."
Smells have a way of transcending time, don't they?
I bet all of us can close our eyes, remember a favorite recipe that was prepared in your home growing up and that smell triggers a specific feelings, even to this day.

As usual, I quadrupled the recipe.
Doing this takes an additional 30 seconds, but reaps hours of added pleasure.
Banana breads freezes wonderfully, and having some on hand gives you the opportunity to share with others...for no other reason that "just because."
I made two regular banana bread loaves, and then for the last two, I sprinkled chocolate chips on one, and mixed the last of my frozen strawberries into the other.

Pull out some of those specialized pans that you have hiding in the back of your cabinet.
Don't wait for special occasions - your family is that occasion.
You can see the recipe for
this EASY and QUICK delight in this past post.

In under an hour, I had four delicious quick breads waiting to be devoured.
Make sure you set the timer nice and loud. Don't go take a bath (ha) or run an errand or go feed the neighbor's horse who came to the fence for his daily snack.
I got side tracked in the middle of my baking time by this beauty and when I came back in the house my breads were a little.. hmm... "golden."

And as a parent, I recommend you put some guidelines on the distribution of these delights.
You can be guaranteed there were some consequences when I saw my son's "little piece."
"But mom, I told you I was just grabbing a little piece of the chocolate banana bread. You told me that was fine. "
Bedlam, I tell you....sheer bedlam. :)

Frugal buying tip: I never pass up bananas when they have been marked down anywhere between $.19-.29/lb
Typically, they have gotten just a bit ripe, but they will be perfect for baking.

Quick and easy banana bread recipe:
Ingredients
8T (1 stick) butter, at room temp
3/4 cup Sugar
2 eggs
1 cup (all purpose) flour
1 cup (whole wheat) flour
1 t. Baking soda
1/2 t salt
3 Large bananas (mashed)
1 t. vanilla (I have added almond extract for a variation in flavor)
1/2 C. pecans or walnuts, coarsely chopped -(optional)

1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees (grease bread pan)
2. Cream butter and sugar till light and fluffy.
Add eggs one at a time, beating well after each addition.
3. Sift all purpose flour, baking soda & salt together, stir in whole wheat flour & add to creamed mixture, mixing well. (I don't sift the flour, but I know "officially" you should for lighter bread).
4. Fold in bananas, vanilla and nuts (fold...as in dump & mix :)
5. Pour mixture into pan, bake 50-60 min. or til cake tester comes out clean - cool in pan 10 min., then in rack. (or if you're in my house...hide the rack in some dark secluded cabinet as it cools)
Makes one loaf.

Enjoy some more bulk baking posts:

Easiest Ever Sour Cream banana cake/bread
Bulk Baking - First edition
Bulk Baking - Second edition -best ever cookie
Bulk Baking - muffins

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Tasty Tuesday

Decorating a mantle on a yard sale budget

One of the joys of living frugally is the creative aspect that you can tap into for just a few dollars.
With my walls painted a dramatic green,
I desired to go with the shabby chic look. Since I
have been stuck with the same mantle decor for awhile,
I decided to shop my house (and yard sales) in a quest for some white pieces,
and get it ready for spring.
Because I have made a conscious decision to avoid any impulse purchases, my home decor is always a work in process.
It varies greatly from yard sale season to yard sale season, and honestly, that is part of the fun.
Since I collect anything having to do with teacups, tea parties or hospitality, the white tea pot shown above was a sheer joy for a mere $.50.
I found a few bunches of white flowers at another yard sale for another $.50, and together, that's one delightful dollar .

I am on a perpetual hunt for white pieces, since I am going to re-do one of my hutches and display all the milk ware glass/white pieces that I find.
This is where patience is a virtue.
This above water pitcher was $1, and I found an amazing white iron works piece at a yard sale for $5. (I wanted to hang it before this post....ugh).
It's going to take the place of the two oval pieces, and I think it will make the perfect statement.
And see the frame above?
I had one little open space left on the mantle,
and couldn't think of what to with it,
so I improvised with a $.25 brass frame.
And I re-purposed it, instead of throwing it out.
(from my post "When Brass and Spray Paint meet")

I got crafty a few months ago with the
intentions of hanging this plate on the wall.
But when I shopped my house, I found this to be the perfect spot.

It started as this wonderful handmade gift from a friend,
but was in the box for Goodwill after a dishwasher disaster.
The labels came off (bottom left corner) from the heating process.

So I spray painted it white,

took a regular piece of scrapbook paper,
rounded the corners,
and then spread a bit of Modge Podge on top to glue it down.

It was still a bit plain,
so I cut one of the yard sale flowers branches,
glued it down in the middle and attached a bit of my daughter's hair ribbon.
LOVE.IT.HERE (for now :).
It makes me feel all Martha Stewardish.

I am currently on the hunt for ugly plates ($0.25)
to spray paint.
They will adorn this $1 yard sale mirror.

So let those creative juices go wild this yard sale season.
To think that I can create a marvelous mantle arrangement for $10 (even though it doesn't meet all the designer tips for layering), and then change it around as I find things to improve upon....
is a good thing.
I've learned to appreciate the process.
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In case you missed these other ideas:
*Shopping the house with a little spray paint
*When spray paint and brass meet

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Spring Fluffing party at Rhoda's